Lighten up

I try really hard to make my days the most productive I can. I plan accordingly— way more than I’d like to admit. Some days fall short. Most days fall short. But i’m trying, I pre plan, work out the details and give myself the full opportunity to successfully accomplish all that I planned to get done that day.

Most importantly, I don’t beat myself up.

Personally I have noticed that being overly hard on myself created some sort of negative inner relationship with yourself? Bare with my lack of identifying feelings. I think that setting high expectations, aiming for them, and being okay with falling short creates a really beneficial relationship between you and yourself. You’re not being hard on yourself for not accomplishing what you had set out. I’ve noticed that by doing this, rather than forcing myself and creating something forceful, I was creating a relationship where I simply wanted to do better. I found myself afterwards looking at my day and thinking where I could have been more productive. I don’t let it eat me up, but I have a feeling of “oh shit, honestly I could’ve done that”. I slowly convince myself just how attainable it is.

I did this with food for a long time. If i was on a huge clean eating kick and I wanted something that didn’t follow those guidelines I’d let myself eat it. Right after eating it I’d think “ok that honestly was not worth it” which in turn made me want to not eat that because I realized it wasn’t worth it, rather than forcing myself to completely cut it out. This kind of mindset with things created a super genuine relationship with whatever it is I’m trying to attain. I end up doing or not doing something, simply because I want to, not because I feel as though I have to. 

I shared this theory with someone and they said “oh yeah that’d never work for me” SO take with a grain of salt!

xoxo