Girl, stop doing that!!!!!!!

After a much needed girls night I was sitting at a table full of girls when one of them responded to me saying “I wish I could just sleep at a guys house, and not do anything with him” her nonchalant comment flew over everyone’s head as they all agreed and we moved on to our next subject but this resonated with me. I am the strongest believer of doing exactly what you want to do, and if that means not sleeping with this drunk boy you don’t know that well, then don’t do it? I remember when I came into college I used to have almost this guilt that if I slept at a boys house that meant I HAD to hook up with him. Who came up with this logic? Why is it not a normal thing??? The only difference between freshman me- afraid of making these boys angry because I wouldn’t do anything with them, and me now is simple- I’m confident. I am so confident with myself and if a boy (yes I say boy because most are not men yet) wants to react because I won’t hookup with him, then he is not someone I should even bother surrounding myself with.

Living in a college town has taught me that there are super shitty people in this world, and anyone will walk all over you the second they have the chance to. Don’t give them the chance.

Since coming to college I have learned a lot about myself, far more than I thought I’d learn. College has taught me the most about self worth, which is sadly surprising as I find myself surrounded by young adults who do not feel the same way. I put my own happiness and mental health on such a pedestal, and am very observant of behaviors and patterns around me. What I have found, huge surprise I’m sure no one on this world has figured out yet- we all just want to feel loved!!!!!!!

Where we go wrong is the way in which we try to fill this void of absent love that resonates so hard with us while at college and far away from home. If you want love and affection, you may find affection in your hookup, but it won’t fulfill the burning desire you don’t want to admit you have. Everybody wants to feel loved. Even the biggest douchebags on campus, are probably hiding the want for love behind their glasses and snapback they can’t leave the house without (maybe that’s just an FSU thing).

You’re pouring a part of yourself out to people who have no desire to fill you back up, and you end up feeling a little bit emptier, and a little more disappointed every time. Stop draining yourself for temporary pleasure that you’re confusing with happiness.